For those of you paying attention, that business owner I wrote about last week also happens to be my boyfriend. His gesture was an unexpected and legit demonstration of love and support, very much like when my college boyfriend bought me a sound system so that I could pursue my singing career.
He was inspired to write a check by what he’s been able to accomplish in his business with my coaching and consulting. I was moved because he acknowledged me as he presented the check to me, validating my contribution and the impact on his business.
I was also humbled by his gesture because I once refused to pay him for his help with my car. Bitchy, I know, but: 1. He’s my BF and I think that’s part of the deal. If you happen to get a handy partner, they hook up your shit. 2. I saw a pattern of him being paid for things that would have been considered favors if his business wasn’t struggling, so this was a way of forcing him out of his comfort zone, and into communication with new customers. 3. I wasn’t asking to be paid for my coaching or consulting services – I’m no hypocrite, see number 1.
But he paid me anyway. This guy and his generosity blow me away every time. He knew I was frustrated, because I still hadn’t launched my coaching business. He understood that it’s harder to promote and sell your skills and services than someone else’s. So his check was an affirmation of those very skills and services that I’ve been reluctant to promote.
And that’s what I want to share with you. That we are all here to help each other learn and grow. Sure, I was able to turn Wylie’s business around, and I got a lot of credit for that, but he reminds me to be generous and kind in my relationships. He was focused on becoming successfully self-employed, and I was able to help him with that. I am working on balancing my masculine and feminine energies and he’s able to bring me back from the black-and-white edge of business plans and profit and loss statements in the most gentle and kind way.
We all have different strengths and weaknesses.
We all have different lessons to learn.
We are all at different stages of our respective journeys.
Let’s help each other wherever we can, as much as we can.